


What is it you want out of life—more of your past experiences or something different? By something different, I mean something wonderful, something powerful, something that goes beyond a shallow human experience.
In truth, most folks are looking for an extraordinary life experience, but unless they connect with their higher-selves, they aren’t likely to find it.
The million-dollar question is “How do you connect with your higher-self and stay connected?” We are so conditioned to serving our lower selves that we rarely ascend to our divine potential. It takes more than just a realization to do it. It takes becoming the boss over the process.
Below are four steps for assuming the role of boss over the process of connecting with your higher-self. Follow them for a year and take your life from autopilot to an extraordinary purposeful experience.
Step One: Create a Clear Objective to Guide Your Thoughts

As you may know, thoughts manifest our reality. If you can guide your thoughts, you have the key to personal empowerment. Unfortunately, even most of the people who realize this won’t spend near as much time guiding their thoughts as their thoughts will spend guiding them. Their thoughts act like poorly supervised employees that follow only a vague objective of connecting with the higher-self. What your thoughts need is a good boss, one that paints a clear picture for them to follow.
To assume the role of boss over your thoughts, you need to sit down and really envision the person you could be. What would it be like to live life empowered, fearless, and grounded in your spiritual nature? What dreams might you pursue? How might you change the world? The sky’s the limit when you connect with your higher-self, so don’t hold back. Be bold in imaging the life you would lead.
Once you have a clear picture in your head of life as your higher-self, put it down in black and white. Create a dream board or write it down on paper that you post on your refrigerator. Just remember that, as boss of your life, you are responsible for making sure that your thoughts don’t lose sight of the objective of connecting with your higher-self.
Having a clear objective creates a powerful magnetic pull on your thoughts. If you take no other step but this one to manifest an extraordinary life experience, you will make great strides.
Action Needed:
Create an objective to guide your thoughts by envisioning in great detail what life would look like as your higher-self. Put your vision to paper and look at it regularly.
Step Two: Keeping Yourself Motivated to Achieve Your Objective

It’s easy in this modern world to lose sight of your objective to connect with your higher-self. Your objective has to compete with a number of distractions and temptations on a daily basis. A good boss recognizes the difficulty of staying focused on an objective and works to keep you motivated.
The easiest way to motivate yourself is to read something every day in line with your objective, such as inspirational books, articles, and emails. If you have trouble finding books to inspire you, look at other people’s recommendations that share your taste. Amazon and Goodreads are great places to do this. Simply go to the reviews on a book that has inspired you in the past, and click on people’s profiles who were inspired by it also. By reading their reviews on similar books, you will quickly develop a list of inspiring books to check out.
Just as important as reading the inspirational words of others is speaking inspirational words to yourself. Good bosses rally their employees daily with a motivational speech, and so should you to connect with your higher-self. It can take the form of prayer or self-talk, as long as it moves you to open up your heart.
Bosses who take the time to motivate their employees every day find it much easier to achieve their objective.
Action Needed:
Motivate yourself by reading something that inspires you daily. Rally your thoughts every morning with prayer and/or self-talk.
Step Three: Charting a Path to Connect with Your Higher Self

In order to achieve the objective of connecting with your higher-self, you must choose a path to get you there. A path can deliver you to the door of your higher-self or fall short of it. The choices you make day-to-day determine the path that you take.
Even seemingly inconsequential choices impact your path. The choice, for instance, to browse the internet every day after dinner changes the trajectory of your path. The change may be so subtle as to hardly be perceptible at first, but over time, that trajectory will be magnified, to the point that it can steer you way off course.
All of your choices need to be evaluated to determine how they will ultimately impact your path. That’s where a good boss comes into play. It weighs your choices against the objective of connecting with your higher-self. If a choice is determined to take you off course of your objective, it will veto it. It is, therefore, vital for connecting with your higher-self that you develop the habit of running each of your choices by your inner boss first.
Action Needed:
Evaluate each of your choices in regards to their ability to chart a path to your higher-self. If a choice deviates from the path, then veto it.
Step Four: How to Get Back on Track with Your Higher-Self When You Suffer a Setback

It is easier to connect with your higher-self when your path is smooth, but when it gets bumpy, it can really set you back. Even people who connect with their higher-selves suffer setbacks. They lose their cool, succumb to selfishness, and experience upheavals in their life just like every other human being on the planet. Connecting with your higher-self doesn’t mean you never suffer setbacks: it means you forgive yourself and others quickly when you do and put it behind you.
If we managed our setbacks like a business manages its setbacks, we would reconnect with our higher-selves much more quickly because we wouldn’t take our setbacks personally. We would simply learn from them and move forward from whatever point we find ourselves standing.
A good boss is invaluable at helping you move forward when you suffer a setback, because she looks at the situation objectively. Below is the type of objective guidance you can expect to receive from your inner boss when you suffer a setback.
- Don’t identify with your bad feelings over a setback. Those who identify with their bad feelings get stuck with them. Bad feelings represent an illusion of who you are, not your reality. Treat them as you would any illusion—watch them come and go without giving them too much importance.
- Stay focused on the bigger picture when you suffer a setback. An extraordinary life is not defined by your weaknesses, your limitations, your mistakes, your insecurities, or your heartbreaks. It is defined by your ability to stay focused on your immense potential.
- Don’t hold a grudge against yourself or anyone else over a setback. Holding a grudge is tantamount to putting your life in park and never getting anywhere in life. If the grudge is big enough, it is like putting your life in park in the middle of the freeway—you’re inviting misfortune.
- Use mantras and affirmations to reprogram your subconscious mind. Whether we like to admit it or not, many of our setbacks are a consequence of our own self-defeating thoughts, that is to say, bad programming. The good news is that we can reprogram much of our thinking with positive affirmations.
Deal with your setbacks objectively and they won’t defeat you. Learn from them, and they will actually pave the way for you to connect with your higher-self.
Action Needed:
Don’t take your setbacks personally. Look at them objectively, see what you can learn from them, and then move on.
If you apply the above four steps to your life for a year, you will connect with your higher-self. None of the steps are especially hard but they do require that you call on your inner boss to enforce them. Without its help, your ego assumes the roll of boss over your life. When it is in charge, your higher-self is far out of reach. And so, for that matter, is the chance to have an extraordinary life experience.
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